Teenagers : Dealing with teenagers or engaging with teenagers!

How to engage with teenagers?

I’m pretty sure either you have been dealing or you have already dealt. We already make it so complicated that everything looks like a problem that has no solution.

Every time I hear the word dealing with teenagers kind of switch it to engaging with teenagers.

Dealing sounds like dealing with business clients.

When it comes to our kids we engage with them and there are pretty simple strategies that everyone could try or might have already tried but not in a correct way or tried a few but didn’t work. 

These ways would help you to engage with your teenagers – 

Respect teenagers

sometimes as elders as parents as guardians we try to expect respect from them but I think it’s more a vice versa.

You will show respect and in return, your kids will show respect.

When we are engaging with teenagers is to show respect.

They are in a world where they have their own opinion, their own imaginary world, where they feel like they deserve to be respected.

Understand their perspective

Before we impose our perspective give them a voice where they share what they think about certain things because here’s the thing they are a different generation.

The teenagers and the generation gap are always going to be there. It’s essential to listen to their perspective

Accept the odds 

With the changing time, the time is changing what you’ve thought. As success may not be the same definition you thought. Earning good education or having a good job or being an entrepreneur. Maybe for them doing what they love to do is a success.

Doing what makes them happy is success it may sound weird odd but accepting is the best way to engage with them.

When you trust them with their odds or their choices they’re going to be happier.

Let it go 

sometimes as a parent we keep on counting the mistakes they have done in the past they do any mistake and then with that mistake we recount or re-memorize all the mistakes they have done so this way we are making them more guilty.

I’m sure you have done certain mistakes and that you now feel guilty of but you learn from it so some smaller mistakes need to be let go we could not keep grudges against our kids.

When you let it go they learn that you know they can trust you they and that’s the next thing that you know they should trust you if they have done even something wrong they should trust you to tell you. 

Engaging with teenagers is not rocket science everybody can do it.

You need little patience and need to trust them. You need to listen to them give them a voice.