Tathastu Buddy
Parenting
I remember, I wanted to be free, fly like a bird… without any stop; why do my parents restrict me so much ? Why am I not let to do whatever I please? I am 15…I am 18… I am 21… I am married. It was always on my mind, driving me crazy and I just wanted to erase every trace of boundaries, the Lakshman Rekha drawn by my parents.
But, when I see today, I realize that all these boundaries actually prevent me to go out from play ground of the life. Parent-child relationship is a very special bond and a two way street; first being a child and then even more beautifully being a parent. Once a kid, always a kid to our parents. Once a parent, always a parent to our kids.
Youngest among four siblings and the darling daughter to my father, I was always over pampered. Then, I got married and today, we “own” our darling angel, that’s how all of us feel- the parents, we have all the rights, right? But were we ever okay with this as kids? Never.
Waking up in the middle of the night to feed her, stop her from crying, play with her until she gets satisfied…Man, she’s just like me – not easy. At the end of the day, her presence, her smile, her sparkling eyes, her breath, her feed, her poop, her diapers, her tiny little fingers, her soft smooth shiny black hair, her heartbeat, and the very essence that she came from us…has made it all the more amazing.
I had never known ‘caring’ and ‘taking care’ are totally different things, until her. I always remember my grandmother saying “Jab tu maa banegi, tab samjhegi” and today I understand it in its true sense.
From their cry, feed, sleep and poop cycle to crawling, mouthing, sitting, standing, walking and running on this journey, we sync our bio clock with the baby’s. And at the end of the day, it’s a pure bliss.
